title:Mentors are Fabulous
date: 2020-10-31 17:00
tags: mentorship restlessness
summary: Coaches help
---

*This is mostly a nerdy blog.  However, this post is motivational and
non-technical.*

Recently I have been listening to "I'm still here", which is Jim's theme from
the movie [Treasure Planet](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Treasure_Planet).  It
reminds me of uncertain times in my life, when I was struggling with self-worth
and fearful of the future.  I had all these big plans for my life, and I was not
making any significant progress toward achieving them.  However, many of my
friends had married, started a family, landed their dream job and were happily
living a life that seemed so far out of my reach.  I would waste days just
watching tv shows and online videos, and I felt lost and hopeless.

Has your life ever felt like walking through a hazy morning fog?  Have you ever
spent a day, knowing that the best portion of your day would begin when you feel
asleep that night?  I have been there, and it's not a fun place to be.

I am glad to say that I no longer live life with such a depressed attitude.  It
in large part has to do with a good friend and mentor, who has spent countless
hours encouraging me and pointing out the good things that are *already present
in my life.*

I suppose the most significant practice that has helped me to stay positive is
the teachings of [Dr. Joe Dispenza](https://drjoedispenza.com/), which
encourages you to focus on the things, for which you are grateful, especially
the things that you do not yet have.  He teaches a type of meditation that
imprints this on your brain.  Just spending a few minutes in the morning
meditating like this, drastically improved my mood.  I would recommend that you
watch a few videos of Dr. Joe Dispenza; it's worth your time.

Here's a short summary of what Dr. Joe might say:

>  90% of the thoughts that you have today are the same thoughts that you had
>  yesterday.  The thoughts you think influence your emotions.  Try it.  Think
>  about a happy thought, or a sad thought.  What do you feel?  If you spend
>  five minutes re-living your proposal, then you would most likely feel joyous.
>
>  So, if your thoughts shape your mood, then your mood certainly shapes your
>  actions.  If you are angry, then you probably will not decide to act
>  compassionately or generously.  If you are joyous, then you will most likely
>  do kind actions.  The actions you do often are habits, and your habits
>  predict your life.
>
>  thoughts -->  emotions  -->  actions   -->   habits   -->   life
>
>  Therefore, your thoughts predict your life.  Thoughts are things.  If you
>  begin to transform your thoughts, then you begin to transform your life.
>  "Change your personality to change your personal reality."


If you are eager to start meditating now, try the following.  Spend some time in
a comfortable sitting position (if you meditate laying down, you may fall
asleep).  Set a timer for 10-40 minutes.  Put on some meditating music.  While
you are sitting, try to focus on the generous present moment and also be
thankful for the things that you do not yet have.  Guided meditations may help
you as well.
